User blog comment:TW6464/Who is your least love interest?/@comment-5385957-20120811012107/@comment-1388547-20120811160742

Yeah, for the sake of avoiding player discomfort they really need to clearly mark which actions initiate a romance. (Also, all romances need to be initiated by the player -- having Anders make a move on Hawke in DA2 was a big mistake on the developers' part. It's not necessarily realistic to have the player initiate everything, but it's better than having to rebuff an unwanted advance.)  I would totally go have some beers with Kaidan, but I don't want to date him!